I moved to LA, yada yada yada, I got my big break...

So, I've been acting my whole life, professionally for many years, and I have yet to figure it out. The art I understand, but certain business aspects baffle my mind. All I do know, is that if given the choice between death, or not acting...it's a tough call. Not that it should ever get that intense, but if you are going to suffer the trials and tribulations of the entertainment industry, you should have an answer to that question.

On that note, I've noticed there are a lot of frustrated artists out here. And I have a bit of advice from my own experience:

This business can really show you what you're made of. If your not prepared to own your choices, for better or for worse, then pack your shit, move back in with mom, and figure out a plan B. You could also spend your life doing something else that's mundane but is more financially secure. But, if you're ready to face your inner demons, and love the decisions you make, good or bad, then you may have what it takes to ripple the pond that is show-business. You have to accept that, it will take an undeterminable amount of time, and that even if you land that dream job, nothing is promised. It's easy to let the rejection you experience, and the occasional bouts of poverty to jade you, and make you bitter. If not that, then the lack of recognition, not having an audition for months, let alone a booking, can and will have an effect, we are only human. The main difference between a success and a failure, is how we cope with what's thrown at us. My mother once said to me, "It's how you react that defines who you are, not what happens to you...". And that has been one of the best pieces of wisdom I've heard, especially in this business. You can let the negative shit you feel to get the best of you. The frustration can start to permeate from you almost like a stink, and it can get very strong. For me, the solution was to step away from myself, get out of my own head, and really try to remember why I even chose to be an actor and pursue this life. I feel happier, and more alive when I'm performing than when I do anything else. And that, is a beautiful thing. That, is what I want seeping from my pores: love, passion, creativity...not frustration or anger. I want the energy I felt the first time I stepped on stage to permeate my being. THAT, is what will make people want to be around you, and will separate you from the rest. This not only applies in the acting world, but in every aspect of life. I'm not saying to repress, or to be phony. I'm saying to focus on the positive, make peace with the bullshit, and realize you're living your dream (even if it sucks sometimes). Remember, on one coin there are two sides...

Until next time...

Love,

-R*